Coping with death: some help and information at this difficult time

Dealing with the death of a loved one is naturally a deeply painful experience – most likely the hardest thing you'll ever go through in your life. Unfortunately there is no magic spell to help you feel better about your loss, but here are a few pieces of advice that might be of comfort to you at this difficult time.

There is no normal

Some people talk about grief being broken down into stages, and whilst in many cases the grieving process does seem to follow a vague pattern, it's certainly not the case for everyone. It's important to remember that there is no set way to grieve, no right or wrong amount of time for the grieving process to last and no right or wrong way to deal with this highly personal experience.

Talk to someone

Sometimes when people are grieving the loss of a loved one they feel like shutting themselves away from the world, but talking about your feelings with someone can be very helpful. If you feel that you can, turn to close friends and family members, as this will help you to feel less isolated. You could also consider speaking to a bereavement counsellor – a service you can access for free through your GP.

Take care of yourself

Looking after your body is probably the last thing on your mind if you're grieving, but it's important to make the effort to take care of yourself even if you don't feel up to it. Sleep deprivation and poor physical health are likely to make you feel even worse than you already do. Try to eat well and regularly, get a little bit of exercise each day, and sleep for between seven and nine hours each night. Doing these things will help to give you the strength you need to get through each day.

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